Official CA Bed & Breakfast Myth Debunking Makes Me Want to Never Ever Visit a B&B

Now I know what the California Association of Bed & Breakfast Inns (CABBI) is trying to do here today, but, man, I don’t know, some of the myths listed below are news to me. So the net effect  is that I’m less likely to ever set foot in a B&B.

Think I’d rather sleep in my aging Land Cruiser (diagonally, as it’s shorter than some Camry Solara  two-doors) after flopping the rear seats and popping the minivan-style rear side windows than deal with any of the B&Bs that got these myths going.

(Also, I’d like to note that not having a shared bathroom, in and of itself, does not “ensure” your safety.)

OTOH, put a kayak-in B&B on Red Rock Island, San Francisco’s northernmost piece of real estate, and I’d be up for an overnight. Red Rock is on the left and Danielle Steel’s least favoritest Bed and Breakfast is on the right behind the Richmond-San Rafael Bridge, on noisy East Brother Island in neighboring CoCo County.

(San Francisco County extends to places it really shouldn’t, don’t you know.)

Anyway, have at it.

Debunking the Top Five Myths of Bed & Breakfasts: California’s B&B Association Sets the Record Straight

SACRAMENTO, Calif., April 12 — The California Association of Bed & Breakfast Inns (CABBI) recently asked travelers if they’ve ever stayed at a bed and breakfast, and if not, why? The answers made us smile. Below is a list of the top five misconceptions we heard.  For more debunked myths about B&Bs, visit:

1) B&B decor is limited to lace doilies, paisley wallpaper, antiques, and patchwork quilts

The decor of some CABBI-member inns recall earlier eras, but increasingly more inns, such as San Francisco’s Laurel Inn in or San Diego’s Hotel Parisi are trending toward clean, sophisticated decor with modern furnishings and amenities. Even many Victorians, like the Honor Mansion in Healdsburg, feature individually decorated rooms to appeal to a variety of tastes.

2) You have to share a bathroom with other guests

The majority of CABBI-member inns offer private bathrooms. For those that don’t, most–like the Hotel Charlotte near Yosemite National Park–have policies of only renting rooms with shared bathrooms to families and couples traveling together to ensure the safety and comfort of guests.

3) You have to eat breakfast with total strangers and eat whatever the innkeeper prepares that morning

The Elk Cove Inn & Spa in Elk offers guests many choices for breakfast.  Guests can choose to sit at the large table if they wish to socialize, or dine at a more intimate, two-person table. The inn’s champagne brunch features 20-30 items, allowing guests to select what they want to eat.  Many inns also pride themselves on accommodating guests with special diets or food allergies.

4) You have to abide by a curfew set by the innkeeper

Curfews are one of the most common myths. At the McCaffrey House Bed & Breakfast in Twain Harte, guests have keys to the main house and guest room doors, providing guests with the flexibility to come and go as they please.

5) B&Bs are only for couples and strictly prohibit children and pets

CABBI has over 180 family-friendly inns and more than 70 pet-friendly inns in California. The Dolphin Inn in Carmel offers a family unit with two bedrooms, two bathrooms, a heated swimming pool, and breakfast delivered to your door. The Beazley House Bed & Breakfast Inn in Napa offers 11 pet-friendly rooms. Four-legged guests receive a water bowl, a treat bag, and a list of dog-friendly wineries and restaurants. To search for more family-friendly or pet-friendly inns, visit

Established in 1991, The California Association of Bed & Breakfast Inns (CABBI) is the largest tourism organization of its kind in California. We are a non-profit, statewide organization that is wholly dedicated to ensuring the highest quality standards in bed and breakfast accommodations. Currently, CABBI has nearly 300 members. Source: The California Association of Bed & Breakfast Inns

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5 Responses to “Official CA Bed & Breakfast Myth Debunking Makes Me Want to Never Ever Visit a B&B”

  1. Innkeeper Mandie says:

    I’m not sure why, after reading this article, you do not want to step foot in a B&B? I did not see anything negative in the article. Granted, B&B’s are not for everyone, but I don’t understand what your reading negatively?

  2. sfcitizen says:

    I hadn’t thought about how some B&Bs might have curfews, shared bathrooms, stuff like that. Anyway, if this is what people think B&Bs are like then i’m pretty sure I don’t want to go. I’ll agree that there are many different types of B&B.

    I think the writer assumes that people all know about these “myths” already.

    I’m not the average person, I’ll admit. I’d rather sleep in my car than deal with something like this:

  3. Innkeeper says:

    I don’t think you got the point of the article. The article was saying that these are things that some (uneducated) people associate with B&B’s. They are NOT commonly found in most B&B’s today.
    Furthermore, with today’s websites, virtual tours, blogs, guest reviews and on-line B&B directories, there is no reason for anyone to stay somewhere (B&B or any other accommodation) without fully educating themselves about the place first – assuming that they want to be educated. “Know before you go.”
    As far as HIBBO’s go, not all innkeepers are like that, either. Do you lump all hotels together and avoid them just because you had a rude front desk person or a housekeeper who wouldn’t give you an extra towel or bar of soap at one hotel…NO! So why do people do this repeatedly with B&B’s?

  4. sfcitizen says:

    I got the point of the article.

    I think some guests might enjoy an intrusive B&B owner, actually. I guess that’s what you’re signing up for. Myself I’d prefer to avoid B&Bs

    No soap? That’s cold.

  5. I am wondering if the editor who would rather sleep in his car has ever tried a bed and breakfast? I never stayed at B&B’s until I bought one…never thought about other lodging options from a hotel. We have a lot of 1st time B&B guests that stay with us and they LOVE IT! I don’t know what you mean about intrusive innkeepers??? We are there to welcome our guests. We find out what brought them to the area and help map out directions to do the kinds of things they want to do. At our B&B the owners live on the 2nd story and the guests that the entire 1st story so we are not invading anyone’s space. Have you ever stayed in a hotel with children running up and down the hallways or listening to a blairing TV late at night? That doesn’t happen at a B&B. Have you ever slept in a hotel where you smell bleach from your sheets all night and slept on some sheets that feel like sandpaper? That doesn’t happen at a B&B…they usually have deluxe mattresses and nice sheets. Have you ever gone to a breakfast buffet at a hotel and received a frozen muffin? That doesn’t happen at a B&B. Your breakfast is usually prepared from scratch. Have you ever stayed at hotel and gone to the front desk for a recommendation for your anniversary dinner only to be told that the desk clerk doesn’t live in the area and can’t help you. At a B&B the owner will get on the phone and make reservations for you. The bed and breakfast industry is all about customer service, not intruding on someone’s private time. The editor of this article comes across as so hateful towards bed and breakfasts that I cannot believe they ever stayed in one???